Single People

[blas87]

The reverse of the "People in Relationships" thread.

Not single people in general, I'm talking about single people who cannot be happy for their friends or family members or whomever have you who are currently in relationships.

My bf's friends are a good example. One of them constantly asks him "Don't you wish you were still single?" anytime that we see him out in public and a group of skankily clad girls walk by. Wow, in the 5 seconds you wasted flapping your gums insulting me, you could have just chased after them. Now they've gotten away.

Oh, it's not because he doesn't like me or approve of me. It's because now that he's single, he thinks all guys in relationships are "trapped" by their girlfriends. Yeah, like I tell my boyfriend what to do and I refuse to allow him to go out.

It doesn't work that way. He gets his chances to go out, and I have my girls' nights with my friends. We do prefer to spend time together, mostly because neither of us have the extra cash to go out drinking or partying, and we find that our money goes by further by going out to eat and renting movies. Add to it that most of our friends refuse to do anything that doesn't involve alcohol, so it's not like they jump on the chance to hang out with US.

Just had to rant. Not everyone in a relationship is "Trapped". Some people are actually pretty happy.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

You think it's annoying now, Blas? Wait till the time, should you ever decide to marry, that you announce your engagement.

Geeze, every bitter victim of a failed relationship will be queing up to tell you what a horrible mistake you're making, how much marriage sucks, how all men are unfaithful pigs, how all women are gold digging whores, etc.

It must be all true, you know. It couldn't possibly be that maybe they chose the wrong type of partner. And it sure couldn't be possible that they maybe don't learn from previous mistakes and just keep choosing the same kind of wrong partner every time.

Your bf's friend doesn't think all his friends who are in relationships are trapped and miserable. He's the one who is miserable, and misery loves company. And probably his thinking "gee I wish I was single" all the time while he WAS in a relationship is why he isn't in one now.

[Greenday]

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I know a lot of single people get jealous over friends who are in relationships. I've done it before. I know what it's like. But I don't get why they try to make their friends miserable by telling them to break up with their boyfriend/girlfriend. Unless they are in a very bad relationship, that's not right.

[BroomJockey]

blas, you're 100% right. The guy's a tool, and probably people like that are either mostly jealous, or just can't understand the attachment between a boyfriend and girlfriend. In this specific case, it's probably jealousy, since he was in a relationship, but isn't now.

[blas87]

You guys are definetly right.....and on to something here.......

I don't hear my girlfriends taunting me with "Aww blas, dontcha wish you were still single?" when a group of frat boys go swaggering by. My guy friends don't even bug me about it, the most they do is ask how my boyfriend is doing.

I mean, I've been the single girl when all of my friends were in relationships. Sure I had my moments where I felt like a 3rd (or 5th) wheel, I felt like a loser, I felt even worse when time after time, bad date after bad date, nothing changed. But I would never say such awful things to my friends. Part of being friends is that you are there for one another and support one another. I WANT to see my friends happy. I want to know that my friends are being treated well and feeling in love, and experiencing how great it can be to share life with someone.

[Slytovhand]

Perhaps, what said 'friend' meant was: "Gee, I'm such a loser I can't pick up on my own, I could really do with you playing wingman... or even doing all the work, and I'll just tag along and hope they notice me - but since you've got a girlfriend, I'm SOL :( "...

[blas87]

Haha on the wingman theory. That's a whole other topic for a different thread.

Girls around here are so slutty, they'd just think my bf wanted them......or they wouldn't even care if he told them he was with me. I don't like the wingman or wingwoman aspect of dating. Not only that, but there are people who read between the lines and will think you're a total coward if you are an adult and still need a friend to "hook you up". Grow a pair and do it yourself. That's what I did, and look what I got!

[Greenday]

Nah, that can't be it. Friend's with girlfriends are perfect for wingmen. I won't post why because I don't know if any of you are part of the secret underground organization of women against men in which case you'd spread the secret out and it won't work. But trust me, it works.

[blas87]

I don't need to be in on your little club, Greenday. I know how girls work.

Well, ok. I know how drunk, promiscuous girls work.

Maybe if his friends were willing to meet girls in a more appropriate setting where girls weren't throwing up or falling over or not realizing that their nipples were falling out of their swim suits.....or if they were willing to meet some of my single friends, who may not be willing to "put out" on the first date or first 5 minutes, but can actually start, hold, and keep a conversation going and have better things to talk about than blowing stuff up and being drunk....

[BroomJockey]

have better things to talk about than blowing stuff up

you take that back! There is nothing better than talking about blowing stuff up, except actually doing so!!!!!! :p

[blas87]

Yeah ok, maybe if it's something remotely impressive, like a spud gun :P

[BroomJockey]

Yeah ok, maybe if it's something remotely impressive, like a spud gun :P

How about thermite? That's fun stuff.

[blas87]

I don't think the young males around here would even know where to begin with that one. Last I heard, they were still thinking they were smart with ketchup bombs.

[Flyndaran]

I don't think the young males around here would even know where to begin with that one. Last I heard, they were still thinking they were smart with ketchup bombs.

I feel the urge to say that the REAL smart guys, like me, avoid explosives.
I like having all my fingers. :)

[BroomJockey]

I feel the urge to say that the REAL smart guys, like me, avoid explosives.


I'm a pyro, I admit, but I practice safety above all other things, so no, I wouldn't say that you're a "REAL smart guy," just intelligent for knowing what you are and are not capable of.

[Flyndaran]

I'm a pyro, I admit, but I practice safety above all other things, so no, I wouldn't say that you're a "REAL smart guy," just intelligent for knowing what you are and are not capable of.

Yay! I know my limitations. Pat-rick! Pat-rick! Pat-rick!

[AFPheonix]

you take that back! There is nothing better than talking about blowing stuff up, except actually doing so!!!!!! :p

Oh I dunno, a good poop joke ranks right up there.

But I'll admit I'm a pretty abnormal female.

[Flyndaran]

Oh I dunno, a good poop joke ranks right up there.

But I'll admit I'm a pretty abnormal female.

It's just the primate in you.
There's a well known instance from the famous Koko the gorilla. When shown videos of potential suitors, one was so ugly she signed, "Toilet Face."
To be fair, I saw that male gorilla, and he was seriously fugly.

[BroomJockey]

Yay! I know my limitations.

Smarty-pants.

[Flyndaran]

Smarty-pants.

Hey now. I've met far too many that grossly overestimate their abilities.

[Nyoibo]

I feel the urge to say that the REAL smart guys, like me, avoid explosives.
I like having all my fingers. :)

Hey, I've still got all my fingers, ok I'm missing some bits of finger print, but so what.:D

[Greenday]

How about thermite? That's fun stuff.

I've done that. Along with pure sodium and pure potassium. I'd like to try francium but I don't think my teachers will let me...

[blas87]

Back to my original point....as if I really had one....if I did I think I lost it....but bear with me as I try...

I think it says a lot about "friends" and could even tie in with our friend rant threads when some people would rather be angry and jealous than happy for their friends.

It's not like my boyfriend would be hateful and rude if his friend were the one with a serious girlfriend.

[Akasa]

"Friend" sounds like a tool.

[Wingates_Hellsing]

Main topic: Yeah the 'friend' sounds more like a 'leech' more recently referred to as 'mooch' or 'jealous, hateful, cowardly jackass"

Side topic:
I dunno, I think I *may* have a chance with the ladies. After all, I spend most of my time talking about shooting things, not blowing them up... like THIS!

http://i152.photobucket.com/albums/s186/Wingates_hellsing/IMG_0612.jpg

Eat BBs you dirty blue team maggots!

That said, I actually have encountered female airsofters of both the ditsy out-of-place variety and the kicks all your asses variety.

[Nyoibo]

I prefer the kick all your asses type.

[Flyndaran]

I prefer the kick all your asses type.

Until your first argument... I kid, I kid.
Seriously, I would never date a woman that won't stand up to me when I am or at least they think I'm being a dumbass. Who wants a robot with boobs? Oh wait, I was 12 once. ;)

[blas87]

Oh trust me, if I could have, I would have slapped the bastard.

But my boyfriend just can't seem to stand up to his friends, or will only do it in what seems to be the most inappropriate times.

Instead of telling his friend "No, I'm not going to stare at those nasty drunk sluts, I have a hot girlfriend that I'm very happy with. Why don't YOU go over there and try your luck, since you really won't know unless you try?"

But of course, he just nodded and smiled and later said to me "That's guy talk. He doesn't really mean it."

Even with his other friend currently threatening me with how many girls there will be at this weekend's drunk camping excursion that I don't want a part of, all these girls that are going to be all over my boyfriend because I'm not there, my boyfriend just says "Just drop it. He wants you to come, and he's going to say whatever he can to upset you enough to get you to go."

[Giggle Goose]

Instead of telling his friend "No, I'm not going to stare at those nasty drunk sluts, I have a hot girlfriend that I'm very happy with. Why don't YOU go over there and try your luck, since you really won't know unless you try?"


:rolleyes: Riiiight, as if this "friend" picks up a bunch of chicks every night just because he doesn't have a girlfriend. He's just jealous of your bf because he doesn't know how to approach one. If he has so much of that single-guy swagger then it shouldn't be a problem getting one of those lovely ladies in his clutches.

And it's not like your bf can't check girls out just because he's attached. I read a blog that said "it's ok to window-shop as long as you don't leave fingerprints on the glass." Heck, I do it too! It's all in fun.

[Rapscallion]

I'm single. Always have been. Not in any danger of not being (that I know of). I tend to the view that romance is a great spectator sport. When someone says there's a romantic comedy on, I tend to think they're talking about life.

Would I say that all relationships are bad? Certainly not. Have I seen poisonous relationships? Yes. I tend to the view that it's not for me and should be left to the people who know what they're doing. I've yet to meet either of them.

Rapscallion

[Nyoibo]

But of course, he just nodded and smiled and later said to me "That's guy talk. He doesn't really mean it."


Smack your bf upside the head and tell him "No, it's asshole talk".

[tabbyblack13]

blas - I think you bf's "friends" just want to make fun of him or try to break you guys up. You might have to be the one to stand up to these "friends".

I also have to agree with Rapscallion. I see the relationships of others as romantic comedies. I agree that relationships can be good and if both people are happy then who am I to complain.

[blas87]

I would hope that that's not the truth. If so, they picked the wrong girl to screw with.

I never gave them a reason to hate me, but I'm sure they'd do it to anyone he dated because they are single and he isn't.

[katie kaboom]

I had an ex whose friends were like that when we were together. They just hated that him spending time with me cut down on the time they had to hang out with him. When none of his friends liked me, I suppose that should have been a red flag right there. But I was in love and didn't care at the time.

Looking back though, I'm not at all surprised that relationship ended.

[blas87]

I've had girlfriends who have absolutely hated some of my bfs for how they treated me or how my bfs treated them....but I've never had a girlfriend be jealous of a bf or dislike them for no good reason and to try to stir the pot by saying stupid things without thinking.

It's not like I take up all of his free time. For Pete's Sake, I work full time and I only get to see him 2 days a week, 3 if I'm lucky. He isn't "stuck" with me.

[smileyeagle1021]

Blas, first, as a slight off topic, you and your BF are an adorable couple, you two do look genuinely happy together, don't let bullshit like this crap from his friends ruin it.
Second, back on topic, I'm agreeing that it's most likely jealousy. I admit, I find myself jealous of my friends in stable committed relationships. I think it sucks waking up every day being alone. Not to get on a soapbox, but this is the state where I've so far landed one date with someone... and it turned out he was addicted to twitter and wouldn't shut up about his updates from Perez and Ashton the whole time, which really turned me off on the dating scene here.
Despite that though, the jealousy and the slight bitterness that, through some fault of my own I'll admit, I can't find anything like what my friends have, I would never even consider harrassing one of my friends about it (granted, I've joked that they should have an affair with me ;) but both of us knew it was in jest)

[DesignFox]

Smack your bf upside the head and tell him "No, it's asshole talk".

Second. ;)

If one of my BF's friends ever did this, there'd be some hell to pay. Although, I think in my case, my BF would be the one smacking his buddy upside the head...he doesn't take crap from anybody, and I'm pretty sure he wouldn't let his friends make me cry. Of course, all I need to do is point at someone bothering me and he takes care of the problem...(only had to do that once, and that was before we were dating *giggle* that's a story!) :D

*ahem*
It sounds like his friend is very jealous. If it were me, it would make me very uncomfortable if the BF didn't do anything about it...talking about bringing drunk sluts on a camping trip where you won't be around is very shitty. Trying to convince the guy that he would be better off single, in front of you, is ridiculously shitty.

I hope things get better. But I am very happy that you and your BF are happy. And that even if he doesn't smack his friend around (as I think he should!) at least he doesn't listen to him! :)

Gah. Guys like that "friend" irritate me.

[blas87]

Thank you all for your kind words :)

I'm glad you like our pics, Smiley :)

[smileyeagle1021]

I'm glad you like our pics, Smiley :)

yes, if ever he decides he doesn't like women ;)

ok, I kid, I kid :)