Skanks!

[Greenday]

You have a boyfriend.
Your boyfriend is in the Navy.
Your boyfriend was just deployed in March and is deployed until December in the Middle East.
You just had a huge issue with him about how he MIGHT have been cheating on him (and later you found out he definitely wasn't)

So why do you:
Flirt with every guy you see
Let other guys motorboat you (just because they are gay doesn't change a damn thing, whore) and grab your boobs
Get a gay guy drunk just so you can make out with him
Admit you fully plan on cheating on your boyfriend during the summer
Ditch your friends as they are leaving so you can continue to flirt with some drunk guy who was just kicked out of the bar for starting shit with some other patron, leaving us to be stuck worrying about you all night and me with your damn $300 coat you HAD to bring tonight even though it's too warm for a jacket or even a hoodie tonight

Yes, one of my friends who is new to my group does all this shit. And the thing that kills me even more than this bullshit is that everyone in my group except me and one other person thinks it's perfectly cool.

[Wingates_Hellsing]

Some people think that, because people are allowed by law to do whatever they wish in many instances, we should just up and accept it. IMO we shouldn't suffer the skank to breathe the same air as the rest of us, because I don't appreciate it nor tolerate it around me...

Fuckin' skanks....

[blas87]

I hate those stupid little drunk skanks that go around the bar grabbing/touching/flirting with every guy they see.

Dumb sluts, a lot of couples go out together.

Last Saturday night, some drunk slut grabbed my friend's husband's junk while he was playing pool. Then as she saw my friend coming towards her, she ran off. I mean, he didn't even LOOK at her or talk to her, she just walked up to him and DID IT!

One night a year or so ago (I KNEW this would happen, stupid boyfriend didn't believe me) some drunken nasty slut was dancing around every guy in the bar and my bf went to try to talk to her to see if she'd dance with his brother. No sooner did he touch her, the dumb slut pulls her shirt down trying to show him her boobs.

Yeah, let's just say it took multiple people to get me to quit making fists and go running after her, and I am NOT a big girl by any means.

[dendawg]

One night a year or so ago (I KNEW this would happen, stupid boyfriend didn't believe me) some drunken nasty slut was dancing around every guy in the bar and my bf went to try to talk to her to see if she'd dance with his brother. No sooner did he touch her, the dumb slut pulls her shirt down trying to show him her boobs.

Damn, I thought people like that only existed in Penthouse Forum.

[elsporko]

Sounds like the girl in the first post is having a very hard time adjusting to having her boyfriend in the navy and deployed. She's probably feeling scared and alone and reacting in a negative fashion. You should try talking to her and comforting her. I couldn't imagine what I would go through if my fiancee was gone for months at a time in a situation where she could easily be killed.

[Fryk]

I can sort of imagine. In the sense that I know I definitely WOULDN'T be looking for the first opportunity to cheat. The boyfriend being in the navy has nothing to do with this female's (not woman's) skankiness. She'd have ended up cheating on him one way or the other.

[elsporko]

You have alot of insight into this person you never met. Maybe she is subconciosly trying to sabatouge the relationship because she isn't emtionally mature enough to handle the hardships of being a military girlfriend.

[Greenday]

Sounds like the girl in the first post is having a very hard time adjusting to having her boyfriend in the navy and deployed. She's probably feeling scared and alone and reacting in a negative fashion. You should try talking to her and comforting her. I couldn't imagine what I would go through if my fiancee was gone for months at a time in a situation where she could easily be killed.

This isn't the first time he's been deployed. I believe it's either his second or third since they've been dating.

[crazylegs]

I couldn't imagine what I would go through if my fiancee was gone for months at a time in a situation where she could easily be killed.

What you do is this: You support them, your love for each other gets you through the hard times and you make sure that they know you love them more than ever.

And you get through it. You get over yourself so that your loved one feels special and loved, and knows they're returning to the love of their life.

You send them letters as often as you can write, you send them parcels as often as you can and you cherish every phone call. When you speak to them you tell them you love them as often as you can in case it's the last time.

That's what you go through.

[Boozy]

You have alot of insight into this person you never met.

Pot, meet kettle.

From your first post:

She's probably feeling scared and alone and reacting in a negative fashion.

We don't really have any evidence of that, do we? All we know is that she plans on cheating on him. That wouldn't be the first reaction of someone who is terrified for the safety of their loved one.

[Hobbs]

This isn't the first time he's been deployed. I believe it's either his second or third since they've been dating.
Did she do this the previous times? If so, I'd do what I can to let him know. There's so many bad stories out there about military relationships.

[Plaidman]

What you do is this: You support them, your love for each other gets you through the hard times and you make sure that they know you love them more than ever.

And you get through it. You get over yourself so that your loved one feels special and loved, and knows they're returning to the love of their life.

You send them letters as often as you can write, you send them parcels as often as you can and you cherish every phone call. When you speak to them you tell them you love them as often as you can in case it's the last time.

That's what you go through.

.... Lucky bastards. I should try to join them again. I could lie on the pysch exam this time.

elsporko? Once again... yeah. Kettle calling pot black. You act like you know, and snap at someone who gives a different opinion then yours.

She may be terrified. She may feel like she can't handle it. Or maybe she's hoping that he'll die so she'll be guilt free.

Ether way, she's being a grade a bitch.

[Greenday]

Did she do this the previous times? If so, I'd do what I can to let him know. There's so many bad stories out there about military relationships.

I wouldn't know. She just joined my group this semester and I'm not about to ask her. Regardless, I don't agree with anyone cheating for any reason. Whether or not he's in the service doesn't change a thing for me.

[Plaidman]

Regardless, I don't agree with anyone cheating for any reason. Whether or not he's in the service doesn't change a thing for me.

Meh. I agree. But some just do. Some woman find a man that they are far happier with then they ever were with their current boyfriend. So they cheat. Then dump boyfriend. It happens. No-one controls their heart. They can't help it if they love someone, then fall out of love with boyfriend and fall in deeper love with said boyfriend, and if they're right there, well might as well. Your planning on dumping the boyfriend anyway, so its basically over in their mind.

[Fryk]

I DO have a lot of knowlege about this female I've never met. It's basic human nature. People don't cheat because they're scared they can't handle a relationship, blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. Nope.

People DO cheat because there's a member of the sex they're attracted to who wants to have sex with them. And they don't have the self control to say "no". Everything else is bullshit rationalization.

[elsporko]

People cheat to sabatage a relationship all the time. She may be cheating because its easier to then to deal with the lonelieness and lack of intimacy. She may also be hoping he finds out and breaks it off with her because she lacks the emotional maturity to make the break herself.

[crazylegs]

.... Lucky bastards.

Lucky? Lucky? Well, lets see here just how lucky I am shall we?

Last year, before she left I sat down with my 24 y/o girlfriend, and we planned her funeral. We picked the songs that would be played, and the flowers that she would have. We worked out who would send flowers, and the charity that she would rather have the donations to. We worked out the venue, and where she wants to be buried.

After we did that we wrote her will.

Still think we're lucky?

Every night I lie awake, waiting for the knock on the door I truely hope never happens. I jump every time the phone rings and I feel sick to the pit of my stomach every time her location is on the news. I flinch, I phisically flinch when I hear of an incident close to where she is.

Do you still think I'm lucky?

[Plaidman]

Yes. I think your girlfriend is lucky to have a man that loves hwe that much. I think all soldiers are lucky to have people like that in their lives that there willing to endure what has got to be the most nerve wracking, heart stopping pain of their life because that love is just that strong. So yes. They are lucky.

[crazylegs]

Not all personnel that are in harms way automatically get to be in a relationship. As the OP has shown relationships can go sour, especially if the person left at home can't handle it.

What I do know is that there is precious little support for those left at home - no social events where the people at home can get together and share experiences, no-one to talk to who is having (or had) similar problems.

[Plaidman]

1: I know that not all soldiers get the guy and/or girl. Matter of fact that might be why some join up. They got no where else to go. (Not trying to quote that movie). They may or may not feel that they matter, so they might as well do something meaningful and saves people.

2: I had heard of lack of support, but there's always small ways to try change that. Start a messageboard up, several are free, give url out. Call up some clinics and ask if any psychiarist are willing to work with people for discounts and/or charity. Some are willing to do that from past experences. I make no promises on that though. Its not a cure nor a solution, but even a little bit helps.

[blas87]

crazylegs, I know you aren't in the US, but are you sure there aren't support groups for family members/SOs of those in the armed forces?

It may be worth checking in to. Or perhaps you can find a forum or other site online.

Or ya know, there's always your buddies at these two forums...the names slip me...they are a wacky bunch but they always have open ears and ready fingers :)

[Fryk]

"Cheating to sabotage" is a pitiful rationalization, nothing more. If you want out of a relationship, then GET OUT of it.

[elsporko]

Never said it was honorable just a possibility. Its not really rational either, but more along the lines of a mental breakdown.

[Fryk]

I agree that it is a possibility, in her mind. It just does nothing to change my opnion.

[telecom_goddess]

Not all personnel that are in harms way automatically get to be in a relationship. As the OP has shown relationships can go sour, especially if the person left at home can't handle it.

What I do know is that there is precious little support for those left at home - no social events where the people at home can get together and share experiences, no-one to talk to who is having (or had) similar problems.

I agree with Plaid....if there isn't anything out there at all something needs to be started. It seems to me back in the old days those left behind during war and whatnot used to support each other :confused:

[insertNameHere]

.... Lucky bastards. I should try to join them again. I could lie on the pysch exam this time.

elsporko? Once again... yeah. Kettle calling pot black. You act like you know, and snap at someone who gives a different opinion then yours.

She may be terrified. She may feel like she can't handle it. Or maybe she's hoping that he'll die so she'll be guilt free.

Ether way, she's being a grade a bitch.

Yeah, im hoping I didn't shoot myself in the foot by answering things truthfully. Of fucking course I'm gonna be depressed for a period of 2 weeks when my grandmother who was very influential to me and helped raise me dies.


Idk, there really is no reason to be skanky you know what your doing. When me and my ex broke up she went off and hooked up with her other ex not once but twice because hse was lonely and nobody wanted her and she wouldn't talk to me then we got back together and she tried to deny doing anything.... wondered why i wouldn't fully trust her again.

[Rapscallion]

I don't remember anyone saying that men who lech around are bad. Is there room for that in here?

Rapscallion

[Plaidman]

I don't remember anyone saying that men who lech around are bad. Is there room for that in here?

Rapscallion

Uh... No.

But I guess we'll make an exception for you bossman.

[Greenday]

Two days ago I was informed by a mutual friend that the girl I mentioned and another girl in my group of friends were planning on either 1.) making out with each other or 2.) making out with some gay guy to make me jealous. Um, neither are hot so why the hell would I get jealous? SKANKS

They made out with each other tonight. They made out with the gay guy. And they made out with my mentee (I'm going to have to have a talk to my mentee about that one. He needs to make better drunken choices...and build up a damn tolerance to alcohol that sissy.). They all gave each other hickeys all over their necks. Tomorrow we are supposed to have an Open House for all accepted students to our department. I know some of them are showing up, but if they show up and the hickeys are visible, I'm making the judgment call and making them leave. That's a freaking embarrassment to the entire department and makes me, the rest of my friends, and my teachers look bad. Besides, how immature can you be? Hickeys? Are we back in middle school? No one even did that shit back in high school!

SKANKS

[Plaidman]

Besides, how immature can you be? Hickeys? Are we back in middle school? No one even did that shit back in high school!

SKANKS

... I always wanted to have a hickey.

Plaidman never gets want he wants.

[Greenday]

... I always wanted to have a hickey.

Plaidman never gets want he wants.

You definitely aren't missing out on anything. Basically you end up with a bruise and give everyone a reason to relentless make fun of you. It's not cool by any means.

[Plaidman]

You definitely aren't missing out on anything. Basically you end up with a bruise and give everyone a reason to relentless make fun of you. It's not cool by any means.

I been made fun of

My Name
My Face
My Eyes
My Clothes
My Look
My Intelligence
My Hobbies
My brand of Soda

Among many others. I'd gladdy take the being fun for having a hickey. Because I just go "So, I had a hot girl with me last night, while you were touching yourself to your sisters cosmos magazines"

[Fryk]

If it means that much to you, your Plaidness, I'll give you a hickey!

[Greenday]

Among many others. I'd gladdy take the being fun for having a hickey. Because I just go "So, I had a hot girl with me last night, while you were touching yourself to your sisters cosmos magazines"

As I said, it was anything but a badge of honor in high school. No one was impressed by it. It never made anyone special.