Father Teaches Daughter Lesson About Facebook

[Andara Bledin]

Um, based on the fact that he used his l33t hax0r skillz to get around the facebook block to see what his daughter had written?

I wasn't aware that using the family pet's Facebook account counted at "l33t hax0r skillz."

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[Seifer]

One last time...so what? So what if it's her cell phone next time? I'm sure, just like her laptop, she didn't pay for it either.

Actually I think firecat meant what if the dad goes postal and shoots his daughter. Apparently they've made nice about the incident (at least, in front of the cameras they've made nice - dunno if it's actually true, but whatever), so I don't think the daughter has anything to worry about.

[Greenday]

He may have *found* it by accident, but that doesn't matter. He *read* it intentionally and knowing it was not meant for his eyes. It amounts to the same thing.

So what? If it wasn't meant for his eyes, she shouldn't have publicly posted it.

Kids are reasonably expected to be immature. Adults are not.

Again, so what? If you don't teach them how to act properly, they never will.

And who's to say that, next time, it'll just be her cell phone or something that gets a few bullets in it? (Yes, I know that's a huge exaggeration, but that guy has shown that he has no problem at all playing the Horrible Overreaction game)

One last time...so what? So what if it's her cell phone next time? I'm sure, just like her laptop, she didn't pay for it either.

[Seifer]

Based on what?
Facebook is not a diary. It's possible that anything stupid you post will be seen by the wrong eyes. That is a gamble you take when posting stupid shit online.

Um, based on the fact that he used his l33t hax0r skillz to get around the facebook block to see what his daughter had written? Obviously he figured she had written something she wouldn't want him to see, and he was insanely curious to find out what it was. You think it's a stretch that he'd snoop in her diary? Especially if, say, he came across it's hidden location in her room?

[Andara Bledin]

For those who didn't bother to read the link I posted, both father and daughter are amused by the rage from both sides over the matter.

They're both cool with how it came down at this point, and are getting an awful lot of amusement out of the wharrgarbl comments being posted on Youtube.

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[shroo]

Call me crazy, but I don't think daddy dearest would have any problems with picking up that bad-boy and having himself a book club meeting.

Based on what?
Facebook is not a diary. It's possible that anything stupid you post will be seen by the wrong eyes. That is a gamble you take when posting stupid shit online.

[firecat88]

I'm not going to say that the guy's frustration was unjustified. However, his reaction was over-the-top. And who's to say that, next time, it'll just be her cell phone or something that gets a few bullets in it? (Yes, I know that's a huge exaggeration, but that guy has shown that he has no problem at all playing the Horrible Overreaction game)

[Seifer]

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Call me crazy, but I don't think daddy dearest would have any problems with picking up that bad-boy and having himself a book club meeting.

[Rageaholic]

The main thing is, "My house, my rules, you've been warned before, now there's consequences". I can't argue with that one bit, and it's an attitude more parents need to have.

Ugh, I hate parents like that. Just because they have authoritah does not mean their are never wrong. This guy was clearly wrong.

[DrFaroohk]

I like how he was all like "I'm a big bad IT guy and I hacked thru the matrix to see it!" Dumbass.

[HYHYBT]

If she learns nothing else from this experience she will, hopefully, at least have a better understanding that you can't hide anything online and more often than not it will come back to bite you in the ass.

...which could have been done perfectly well in private. Particularly if he didn't explain *how* he'd found it.

He wasn't spying. The girl blocked her parents, but forgot to block the account created for their family pet and her dad found the comments while adding images to the pet's account.

He may have *found* it by accident, but that doesn't matter. He *read* it intentionally and knowing it was not meant for his eyes. It amounts to the same thing.

I'm all for *teaching and explaining* about how online communications can spread where you don't want them to go, how you can never be certain they're truly gone, how this might have real-world effects if CPS or a future employer reads it, etc... BUT to punish someone for venting to their friends when they *thought* they were safe is simply wrong. I don't care if she exaggerated the whole thing out of one instance of having to pick up a sock, it's still wrong. And doing it publicly is all the worse.

Kids are reasonably expected to be immature. Adults are not.

[Andara Bledin]

He wasn't spying. The girl blocked her parents, but forgot to block the account created for their family pet and her dad found the comments while adding images to the pet's account.

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[DrFaroohk]

I have to respectfully disagree here.

On Facebook, unless your profile is set to a very restrictive private setting, then anything you write on there is practically open for anyone to read. What she had written, if read by the wrong sort of person, could have lead to serious consequences for the dad if someone had interpreted it as child abuse (could happen).

I believe it was stated that she specifically blocked her parents from reading it. And that didn't seem to be the dad's issue.

Maybe I'm just different I guess. If my kids were to my face being disrespectful like that, I'd probably issue some punishment. If I was spying on my kids and overheard them saying to someone else "My dad can be an ass sometimes." Well tough shit. I shouldn't have been spying.

[Silverharp]

That said, I don't really agree with the father shooting up the laptop, but I kinda figured he was one of those crazy American "I loves me guns" type of people.

I think it's more like he wanted to make a point, which he did. Growing up in the country like I did, I can see why he chose to make his point that way, even if I didn'ty agree with it.
Me, I would have formatted the bloody thing and given it back to her saying "here you go, pay for your own software."
And if you listen during his reading of her rant, he stops once and says "well that much is true", indicating her "poor Cindarelli" whining isn't exactly accurate.

The main thing is, "My house, my rules, you've been warned before, now there's consequences". I can't argue with that one bit, and it's an attitude more parents need to have.

Just not to the point of shooting things up, but hey, maybe the family is well enough off to afford to make a point like that?

[Rebel]

I'm reminded of when my wife reads something on here that upsets her. I'm reminded of what I tell her - IF YOU DO NOT LIKE IT, DO NOT READ IT.

It was a private post, and she was venting. Obviously parents have power over their kids, and I'm all for parents checking out their kids online activities, but a simple post venting about some probably valid frustrations is not worth shooting her laptop and getting all pissy.

I would imagine that dad has had negative things to say about his boss before. Maybe he'd like someone to invade his privacy and read it out loud to the boss.

I have to respectfully disagree here.

On Facebook, unless your profile is set to a very restrictive private setting, then anything you write on there is practically open for anyone to read. What she had written, if read by the wrong sort of person, could have lead to serious consequences for the dad if someone had interpreted it as child abuse (could happen).

Two years ago, my younger sister did something similar on Facebook, though she was old enough that she should have known better. She has always had this martyr complex, and after a fight with our dad, she decided to let loose her thoughts on Facebook.
She wrote a 1 page note that essentially accused my dad and brother of beating her as a child, and my mother and older sister of allowing it as well as emotionally abusing her. I was the only one left out of the rant.
Trouble is, she left the letter open for anyone to read.
My father and older sister are both teachers. A rant like this could have caused them to lose their jobs and their reputation if the wrong person reads it. Same goes for my mother and brother. She could have ruined their lives, and still might as the note still hasn't been deleted, just because she was pissed at them.
The stupid thing was, my younger sister was never mistreated, in fact she had a tendency to punch and attack people without provocation. The idea of my dad or brother ever hitting a girl is simply laughable.
She lost a lot of friends after that.

I guess what I'm trying to say, is that Facebook is VERY different from a diary, and it can have serious consequences. The internet is forever, paper is finite.

That said, I don't really agree with the father shooting up the laptop, but I kinda figured he was one of those crazy American "I loves me guns" type of people.