Pet Peeves!

[Myra]

The things that are bothering me right now are generally related to the fact that I am visably pregnant. I am 34 weeks along (8 months) so it's obvious that I'm not just fat...I'm expecting. Now, a lot of strangers will ask when I'm due, and congratulate me and the like, and I don't mind that. Mostly it's well-meaning customers, so it's not a big deal, and I appriciate it.

However, some people leave their brains at home or lack common sense. And these are things that complete strangers feel compelled to do/say to me. It's one thing if you know me, but when strangers do the following, I'm highly annoyed. Here is a list of what will absolutely and positively anger me:

1. Touching my belly. Just because I'm pregnant does not make me public property. If you aren't related to me and don't even KNOW me, respect my personal space. Being with child doesn't mean I don't have that space anymore. I don't know where your germy funky hands have been, and I cannot get sick right now. So keep your hands to yourself. It's not hard.

2. Telling me your horror story. Hey, I'm sorry you were a million weeks overdue and had a 57-hour labor from hell. I'm sorry your kid was the size of of toddler and I'm sorry it hurt and you had to have surgery and it was just so traumatic. I do know many things can happen in labor, but I don't need your story on top of it.

3. Telling me how LUCKY that I am to be so skinny. Once again, sorry you gained 300 pounds while pregnant. But I do not FEEL skinny. I've gained 35 pounds, my back hurts, my feet hurt, I can't breathe most of the day because of the baby, he also likes to hit my ribs which HURTS so yeah. I don't feel skinny. My body isn't used to this extra weight.

4. Don't want to hear about how horrible your sons are after you hear I'm having a boy. The fact that they are running all over my store like drunken circus monkeys is not because they are male. It's because you haven't mastered the art of disipline. (Cannot spell, sorry.) If you'd have said "NO" to them once in a while, you wouldn't be this nice doormat they call "mommy." Now please clean up the mess they made.

5. Telling me "Oh you'd better get all the sleep you can NOW!" Duh. I am not a complete idiot. I realize that having a newborn means you won't be sleeping for pretty much the next 18 years. It's not news to me. It's not like I'm gonna go "Oh really? Why's that?" You are not the first moron to utter that phrase at me.

Anywho. Feel free to share your pet peeves here!

[tropicsgoddess]

My Pet Peeves


People that interrupt/talk over me while I give them advice. YOU called to get my advice, and if you want it so bad just STFU, listen and follow directions.


Spoiled/Bratty kids and the parents that don't discipline them.


Cheapskates. There's a difference with being thrifty versus being downright stingy. If you can't/won't pony up the money, save yourself (and everybody else) the trouble and don't go.


Slackers. Get off your ass and do it! I'm not taking the bulk of the load because you're too damn lazy/irresponsible to do it.


Procrastinators. Lack of your planning does not equal an emergency on my part. You have only yourself to blame for doing something at the last minute. Deal with it.


People that say something when I want to dress up and go out in heels and a cute girly outfit. Just because I want dress like that doesn't mean I want to impress a guy. I want to go out and look nice and it's only because I want to.


Bossy people, especially the ones that have no authority over me.


Freeloaders. 'Nuff said.


Sue-Happy-People. Our country has been turned into a litigious country thanks to these assholes. Because of them, we can't do anything without fear of being sued, even for something trivial!!

[AFPheonix]

I have several, but the one that's annoying me at the moment (because my BIL wandered in and out of our room) is open mouthed chewers. Gross, I really don't want to hear that.

[Slytovhand]

Blamers and whiners. It's not how you want things to be, but instead of trying to actually fix the situation, just whinge and whine about it - and it's always someone else's fault! The icing on that cake is those totally self-absorbed that they don't even see any problem that might involve themselves (as in - they are the core of the problem).

"But no-one told me....!!!!" I loathe that one. When someone goes and does something just expecting it will work the way they want it to, and then get a big surprise to find out it doesn't - and then expecting someone else to pick up after them, or let them off being responsible, or some such similar. Hey.. did you bother to find out first?? No - then sod off! Actions have consequences - accept them, or get out of life.

[DesignFox]

Perfume. For the love of the gods can we just make it illegal? Seriously.

Perfume gives me the WORST god awful debilitating sinus headaches. I want to do physical harm to people who shower in perfume. It smells bad, ruins my dinner (cause then I can't smell my food), stuffs up my sinuses, makes my head ache...and ick when it smells so strong I can taste it...!

:mad:

Yea. I hate perfume/cologne.

[Greenday]

People who ask for advice, go and do the exact opposite of what I said, then come whining that things went horribly wrong.

People obnoxious enough to be loud during sex, KNOW their roommies can hear it, and still do it. My girlfriend's roommate does it. She knows she's loud. Alls you hear are tons of spanking noises and crap. One of the girls in the apartment next to her is loud and obnoxious too.

[blas87]

I hate whiners. I had a trainee once who whined so much she was pretty much crying while doing it. "But I didn't even DOOOOOOOOO anything.....WHY does this keep happening to MEEEEEEE?"

It feels so much better to rant and rave than to play victim and whine whine whine.

[Amethyst Hunter]

Perfume. For the love of the gods can we just make it illegal? Seriously. I want to do physical harm to people who shower in perfume.

I'll help you. *sharpens ax* :D

[anriana]

People who smoke where I have to breathe it.

People who call me ma'am or miss.

People whose response to "What's the phone number?" is anything other than "123-456-7890."

People who use "girl/s" to refer to women over 18. The only exception is when it is being used to point out women who are acting immature. This is especially annoying when the women being referred to are legally required to be over 18.

[McDreidel09]

When people touch one side of my body and refuse to touch the other when they know it bothers me. I have a thing about evenness on my body and I feel awkward when tapped on one shoulder and not the other.

People who come in and order at work, but repeat the damned order. Example :I want an Egg McMuffin. Egg McMuffin. Yes. An Egg McMuffin.
Ok. I got you. I put it in. The ones I really hate are the ones who do that even AFTER I give them their change.

People in my house who don't clean up. I stopped cleaning for a few days to see what would happen and guess what? Nobody else is cleaning! Guess what I will have to do tomorrow?

Whenever I comment on how I have nausea or cravings, I always get a look from my family members. It kinda peeves me that they think that I'm pregnant. I'm sorry. I'm not like the other 17 year old girls you hear about all the time. That was not meant to be offensive to any teen mothers. My mom was a teen mom.

That's just a tiny list of things, but I'll leave it at that.

[Lace Neil Singer]

Fanatical nonsmokers. Do not come and plonk yourself down next to me on a park bench or bus stop bench and make that stupid "Ahem" cough. If you really had asthma, you would be coughing your lungs out. In any case, you chose to sit your fat arse down next to a smoker, so suck it up or leave.

Noobs. Not to be confused with newbs, who make mistakes at first but are willing to learn from them and to abide by the rules. Noobs break the rules constantly, refuse to even read them and just will not learn, no matter how many times you tell them.

Invading my bubble. If you don't get out of my personal space I shall be forced to take immediate action, be it stomping on your foot or shoving you away. Do not invade the bubble!

Sniffing. For fuck's sake, get a tissue and blow your nose.


I'll probably add to this later.

[the_std]

Sniffing. For fuck's sake, get a tissue and blow your nose.

This, but taken to the next level:

Snorting that ball of phlegm OUT of your nose, INTO your throat and SWALLOWING it. Double points if you're in a restaurant or eatery.

Guhhhhhh... *twitch*

[Dreamstalker]

Things I hate:

The general f*cked-up state of the country.

Ye olde catch-22 for some employers; they require experience on some obscure program that the only way to ever learn it is to work where it's used. So they won't even look at your resume if you don't have experience in X...yet the best/only way to learn X is to work for a company that uses it in a production environment.

In keeping with the job-seeking theme, the fact that actual experience means next to nothing. I've seen brilliant techs who don't have anything past their A+, and others with certs out their ears who don't know what a USB port is.

People who refuse to even look for work yet feel justified in criticizing honest attempts *glares in the ex's general direction*. It's hard enough out there kthx, I don't need to hear your little conspiracy theories.

[AFPheonix]

This, but taken to the next level:

Snorting that ball of phlegm OUT of your nose, INTO your throat and SWALLOWING it. Double points if you're in a restaurant or eatery.

Guhhhhhh... *twitch*

Better swallowing it than hocking it up on the sidewalk to sit there in all it's gooey glory.

[Gabrielle Proctor]

I have several, but the one that's annoying me at the moment (because my BIL wandered in and out of our room) is open mouthed chewers. Gross, I really don't want to hear that.

LOL my boyfriend chews with his mouth open, but mostly because he can't breathe(horrible sinuses).

[AFPheonix]

This guy is just nasty. He can breathe just fine. The other thing that annoys me greatly is the condition he keeps his feet in. They're all scaly and fungusy and nasty. I kind of gag a little when he goes around barefoot. Wash your goddamn feet already!

[Greenday]

People on the forums of a specific game I play who think they are oppressed by the mods there. Just because your thread about how you want to get with one of the female mods or thread about random obceneties got closed does not me you are being oppressed.

[Lace Neil Singer]

I'd go with that. It drives me up the wall when noobs whinge about their spam being deleted or pointless threads being locked. Either suck it up or fuck off and start your own board.

[kamn]

I hate:

*Parfume. I dont know if its just my sense of smell (I like earthly; "dirty" smells) but a bit too much parfume and Ill be chocking, then getting a migrane, then vomiting becouse your burning plastic with added chlorine makes you think your pretty.

*Repeating of oneself. Allright, I get it that you have problems with your shortterm memory, hell I have it too. But when you tell me the same joke you told me 2 minutes ago, and 2 minutes before that, it gets on my nerves.

*Complainers. People who are complaining, for complianing sake. Allright, so your feeling down, you need to vent, I get it. But at least vent for something important (boyfriend left ye, yer out of a house, etc), not that your hairdresser gave you a bad cut. If you want to vent about that, go play a game, I hear SIMS is pretty good.

[Lace Neil Singer]

Just one note on this:

*Repeating of oneself. Allright, I get it that you have problems with your shortterm memory, hell I have it too. But when you tell me the same joke you told me 2 minutes ago, and 2 minutes before that, it gets on my nerves.


I tend to do this; I've been told it's cuz of my Aspergers. I understand that it annoys people when I repeat the same sentence I just said, but I honestly don't realise I'm doing it half the time.

[Boozy]

Aw, hell. I do that too.

But I'm just obnoxious. :D

[Greenday]

Something as of this summer:

People who ask me what I do, after telling them I work for the military, even after I tell them I'm not supposed to talk about what I specifically do. It literally is supposed to be confidential (which is as minor as security clearance is, but still). Then they get annoyed because I won't say what I do.

[jedimaster91]

--Poor grammar. I suffered through English composition classes (even though I'd already picked most of the material up from reading so much), and I do not want to decipher your text speak. Learn how to write and speak, or shut up.

--People who think their time is more valuable than anyone else's.

--Sagging pants. Really, do you know how rediculous you look walking around holding your crotch up?

--Bad parents. I don't know how they expect a toddler to sit quietly while they check their MySpace if they didn't bring something to keep the toddler occupied. And no, pulling out the computer cords is not a good way to keep a kid occupied.

--People who CAN'T READ SIGNS. Why yes, we are closed for a class. The doors are closed, the projecter screen is down, and there is A SIGN ON THE DOOR. And yet you're still asking the obvious.

[the_std]

Phrases that usually include "these days", most notably, "kids these days".

People have said it for as long as kids have been around. The kids of today are no worse than the kids of your day! They're just different! Different is not inherently worse! Societal evolution is inevitable, stop trying to dam (or damn) the young people of today just because you don't understand them.

Argh!

[AdminAssistant]

- General attitude of about half of my students. I'm sorry you're having to sit through this random humanities class. I assure you that this will be less painful for you than physics was for me. And, really, stop rolling your eyes at me - I can put down whatever I want for your participation grade, and at this rate it is not going to be very high.

The other half is awesome, though.

- Collegiate red tape. The forms....THE FORMS!!! And, I haven't had to verify my MMR immunization in years. Sheesh.

- Slow pedestrians.

- Long distance guilt trips inflicted by my parents.

[Slytovhand]

People who just have to make things difficult. There's a real easy way to do something, and then there's the much harder which will always make things more problematic... you just have to go the latter... sheesh!

Small examples - most credit cards are written in 4 digit sequences... thus either 2 or 4 digits at a time makes sense... 3 at a time is just asking for problems. Your name, no matter how common, is always going to be difficult to understand if you rattle it off at 300mph on a mobile while driving.

Sopmething hasn't gone the way you want it to, so you just get all huffy and make someone else wrong and decide to bitch about it... instead of just dealing with the situation and working with it (ie - accepting limitations in life!)

Similarly - indecisions. I hate chronically indecisive and uncertain people... who make other people suffer because of it. You've just asked me to do something, but not being sure that I understand, you have to try to re-clarify what you want, even though I've already rephrased exactly what you want, and you've said yes. Now, you want to re-check. And, after I've started, or even completed what you want, you still feel the need to go back over and confirm. Worse when you are asking me something that I am fully qualified or trained in, you need to check my information at least 3 times, as if, stupidly after saying yes to you 3 times already, on the 4th go I'll actually admit to being an idiot and completely negate everything I've just told you and tell you something completely different!

[Lace Neil Singer]

People who come round my flat, tear open the windows and say, "It's so stuffy in here!" -.- No, it's actually effing freezing cold out there; I don't want my flat to end up resembling an icebox, thanks very much. Do that in your own bloody place of residence.

[Sylvia727]

When my driver passes up the last handicapped space and parks three quarters of the lot away from the door, because "others need that spot more than you." The doctor issued me a handicapped tag specifically because I have trouble walking long distances. Yes, I can walk that far, but I'm exhausted afterwards and for the rest of the day. How the hell would you know how much I need that spot versus a hypothetical stranger? Are you wearing this body? Do you know how much it hurts? Grrr.

[Primer]

I hate people who own animals but "can't afford" to take care of them. If you "can't afford" to take your sick dog to the vet and get it fixed up/medicated, maybe you shouldn't own it. Grrrrr.

[AdminAssistant]

Every time they've been mentioning the formula poisoning in China lately, the news folks say, "Remember when this killed some dogs?" I'm sorry, but isn't a Chinese baby more important than an American dog?

[Giggle Goose]

Working with a bunch of whiners who have NEVER experienced an SC in their life and are complaining about working a job with a steady schedule; along with excellent pay and benefits.

Also; the same people who give me shit about having a second job. If these people ever had to work with the public as opposed to a place where you have to have your bags checked to enter; I guarantee you they wouldn't last a second. Some of us like to have extra cash in our pockets; and it's not interfering with my performance, so mind your OWN FUCKING BUSINESS. I think that's what I was getting at. People who don't mind their own business in general. "Ooooh, you're insane. I don't know how you do that." It's called diversity. What's good for you isn't the same for other people, you ignorant turds.

Sorry about that rant. It's been a rough couple weeks. :o

[Boozy]

People who don't mind their own business in general. "Ooooh, you're insane. I don't know how you do that."

I have a co-worker who's working for us as a second job, and I've said almost this very thing to her. I was trying to express my admiration over how hard she works and how energetic she must be. It never crossed my mind that it could be considered rude. :o

Could I ask what it is specifically that bothers you about these comments? It has to be more than just people not minding their own business. You must see some sort of insult in them.

[MystyGlyttyr]

People who throw snide remarks about people who have different belief systems than they do...political, religious, what type of wrestling is best, whatever. While I might privately question the intelligence of a person who believes "A", since I believe "B" after doing a shitload of research on it, I'm not going to be so rude as to insult them over it. Just because you have a thought does not mean you have to give it voice.

Along the same lines...people who think me simply asking you WHY you believe what you believe is my way of insulting you. I base my beliefs on what information I've been able to drag up, and I'm curious to see if you've had access to some information I haven't. That's ALL. If you tell me you believe that way because your mama told you to, fine, cool, whatever. QUIT PRETENDING YOU'RE INSULTED. IT IS NOT "COOL" TO BE OFFENDED.

Speaking of how frickin' awesome it apparently is to be offended, people who tell me I SHOULD be offended by something when I'm not. If my best bud male calls me a bitch, it's probably because I just called him a nutless wonder...and you know what, we're both okay with that. If you're offended, well, sorry, but I'm not. I laugh at white jokes, woman jokes, Catholic jokes, handicap jokes, dumb wrestler jokes (You know you're a wrestling fan when you get fired from work then show up the next day wearing a mask...tee hee :D)., etc. Deal.

So much more I could go into, but won't.

[Giggle Goose]

Could I ask what it is specifically that bothers you about these comments? It has to be more than just people not minding their own business. You must see some sort of insult in them.

Well, it's people not minding their own business, of course, but it's all about the tone of voice. There are people who have expressed surprise in a tasteful manner, which I'm sure you probably have to your co-worker, Boozy. I don't mind that; and I'm more than happy to explain to people why I hold down another job. (Even though I shouldn't have to).

However, there are people that have asked with a puzzled expression on their face; and keep going on and on about how crazy it is. One girl said: "More work?" as if I had spoken to her in Sanskrit or something. I don't think it's so crazy that I have bills to pay and I'm trying to bank money to move out on my own. :confused: There are many reasons for someone to want to supplement their income.

In sum, what bothers me is the ignorance and rude tone. I realize now, though, that maybe some people didn't intend it that way. It just sucks to have to explain yourself to people.

[Difdi]

Not even close to an exhaustive list, but... :mad:

- People who hand you change with the coins on top of the bills (bonus points if they can clearly see your other hand is holding your wallet).

- Thieves (bonus points if they do so in such a way that they make their victim look crooked).

- People who forget what was already said in an argument, then "refute" your points by making the same points from the same viewpoint (you've actually convinced them, but their ego won't allow them to let it go, and all they're left with is the memory of disagreeing with you...so they regurgitate your own opinions to "prove" you wrong).

- People with no honor (Bonus points for people who treat you as dishonorable, because they know that they themselves would be if nobody was watching, and project that lack of honor onto everyone around them).

- People who sincerely believe that they have rights that override you having the same rights ("you shut up and listen to me! you have no right to tell me not to scream in your face!").

- People who demand levels respect they refuse to show to others (Bonus points if they become physically violent if you mirror their respect level back at them).

- People who are incompetent, but spend all their time putting down anything they don't understand as being stupid (the ability to accurately judge competence in oneself or others is part of the spectrum of traits collectively called competence).

- Hypocrites in general (for example, politicians who publicly want to ban all handguns on the grounds that they have no legitimate use whatsoever, but own one for personal protection).

- People who helpfully rearrange other people's houses (Yes, I get that you think you're doing me a favor by "helping" me unload my dishwasher, but it's not very helpful to put dirty dishes away in the cupboard; And even most idiots can figure out the silverware doesn't go in the drawer under the oven!)

- People who have a greater animosity for someone who reports an injustice than the one who perpetrated it (usually expressed as a disdain for "whining" or "crying"; But if everybody is too afraid of being labeled a whiner to ever complain, nothing will ever get fixed, scumbags will be rewarded for their antisocial behavior, etc).

[IDrinkaRum]

-- People who think I'm crazy for wanting to play board/card games with other people instead of mushing my brain with one played on the computer.

-- People who think that because I play D&D and that my husband plays D&D, we're psychotic weirdos who will go on a killing rampage if everyone isn't nice to us.

-- People who are so out of tune with everything but video games who have to ask us what a board game is.

-- Gamers who assume I play Magic 'cos I'm a girl. (You can't play D&D!!! You have to know tactics and numbers and stuff!)

[Xanthina]

When(on anther forum) I have been told in the past to put certain posts in a certain thread. So I do... and every post I have put there has been ignored, talked around, etc.

Maybe snotty, but my comments, questions, and thoughts are important to me. And it PISSES ME OFF to be ignored over and over in this one topic.

[Sylvia727]

People who park their normal sized car in compact sized spots. As I have to swerve into the oncoming lane to get around them, even at 10 miles an hour in a parking lot, it's a serious accident risk. I hope you lose your back bumper, jackass! Even if it's only to bumper-stealing gremlins. :mad:

[Flyndaran]

People that can't understand how my anxiety is not some excuse to be lazy. It keeps me from so much as going outside to talk to anyone, even good friends. I wish I could get even a minimum wage job that didn't induce horrific anxiety attacks.
I once had a 9 day long hell attack that made me lose 13 pounds, and that's AFTER regaining water weight.

[Boozy]

People that can't understand how my anxiety is not some excuse to be lazy.

I know exactly what you mean.

I suffered from a panic disorder for several years in my early twenties, and struggled to hold down a job. My dad was completely unable to comprehend it.

It was very hurtful to me to be thought of as lazy, because I have always prided myself on my work ethic. There is no job I've ever held where the boss wouldn't have said "Boozy's the hardest working employee here, hands down."

[Estil]

Work Related:

*People who try to abuse our 1-15 express lane. One or two over I can let slide, but if you have like 20 or more, please for both our sakes go to a standard checklane.
*People who leave shopping carts out in the middle of the floor and can't take a few seconds to put them back in the lobby. This creates a FIRE HAZARD people.
*People who leave handbaskets on the floor and in the middle of aisles where someone can trip over them.
*Parents who let their kids stand up and rock inside the shopping cart (and even worse, the child seat!!); I once saw a little girl fall inside one and I'm sure it hurt like hell.
*People who swing long key chains around and around. I once saw a little girl come within INCHES of being smacked in the face with one.
*People who think our wheelchairs and electric scooters are toys. Those who play in them or pop wheelies in them I think makes a mockery of the disabled (my wife happens to be on disablity)

Non-work related:
*Whenever I chat with someone online for the first time to say hi and the first thing they say is "asl plz".
*People who smoke right in front of the front doors where all the smoke can get blown in my face. Personally, I liked it better when they had their own enclosed smoking rooms for this reason.
*Those annoying graphics on TV!! Especially on ABC Family and Fox FX. Do we really need the bottom third of the screen filled with annoying little running brides (from Joe Millionare at the time) while I'm trying to watch a program? It's bad enough that reruns will be chopped up to fit more commercials; do we even more advertising in the form of annoying graphics? Is it any wonder some people have said screw cable/sattelite and just get DVDs/Netflix instead?
*People who claim to be all about tolerance and diversity for all but are about as intolerant and hostile as you'll ever find if they happen to run into someone who's a conservative, pro-lifer, pro-Bush, et al?

I think that should cover my list. :D