Creepy like beauty in the eye of the beholder?

[Canarr]

Well - that's pretty normal, if you pause to think about it.

It's the same mechanism that lets you believe your significant other is beautiful, even if, maybe, she isn't (eye of the beholder, again). As humans, we are naturally predisposed to viewing people we like, love, or are simply attracted to, in a more favorable light than those that don't fall into one of these categories. This, of course, extends to their actions as well.

Therefore, people we like get away with more than we'd accept from people we don't like. It's not even necessarily a conscious action; we just rationalize bad behavior, until it has - for us - reached an acceptable level.

So, yeah: Creepiness and beauty are both in the eye of the beholder. The rest of the party is in the stomach of the Beholder...

[Andara Bledin]

Well, at the very least, they're letting you know right up front that they're shallow twits who don't deserve the attention of anyone who wants a relationship with any depth.

^-.-^

[protege]

One reason I never do anything that might remotely be considered flirting.

That's why I've given up. I'm tired of wasting my time.

[HYHYBT]

One reason I never do anything that might remotely be considered flirting.

Of course, that approach (or lack thereof) has its drawbacks as well.

[Glados]

You're not alone. I see this attitude too. I am back in college and it's all over the campus with the younger crowd but I am sure that it carries into older years as well.

[jackfaire]

I have noticed a trend not just when I flirt with people but when anyone does.

What you say is never as important as how you look.

If you are stereo typically gorgeous you can say some of the creepiest line and the person is gushing about how this hot person was flirting with him/her; however if you aren't classically attractive extra weight, skin problems etc then suddenly the same person is shuddering and telling their friends how creepy that person was for even deigning to flirt with them.

For example incredibly hot person leers at them and says something one step away from, "Hop into my bed it could be fun" and I hear "Oh my god that hot guy at the bar was totally hitting on me that is so freaking awesome"

Then same person someone who is overweight tells them, "I think you are very pretty" and not in a way that most people would define as creepy just in like you would observe beauty way and suddenly the person is all, "OH my god can you believe that person was hitting on me how creepy"

Is it just me and having shallow coworkers or do other people see that as well?