"Hello Beautiful!"

[Boozy]

For those working in a retail setting who both don't like pet names and don't like people using your given names: What are people supposed to call you to get your attention? "Hey, you?"

"Miss" or "ma'am" is fine. Or "sir" if you're addressing a man.

I understand company policies that require staff to wear name tags. It makes things easier from an organizational standpoint when customers need to deal with various people (for example, "Your associate Mary told me I could pick up my order over here", or "You cashier overcharged me for this item. His name was John".)

First names are NOT provided for overly familiar customers who like the power dynamic of knowing the lowly servant's name and they not knowing theirs.

As far as I'm concerned, if a customer has not introduced themselves to me, we are to address each other by proper titles only. "Sir" or "ma'am."

[Lace Neil Singer]

"Excuse me, miss?"

This. Or even just "Excuse me". There is no need to act familiar or sleazy.

[Ghel]

One of my coworkers couldn't remember a customer's name, so she called him "Sparky." It was funny the first time, but she's still calling him "Sparky" almost a year later. It's obvious from the way he grimaces that he doesn't like it, but he's too nice to say anything. And she's too oblivious to notice that he doesn't like it.

[victory sabre]

I use pet names, but only for women I'm close to. They do the same to me. I'd never do it to someone I didn't know.

[Mytical]

I have almost no brain to mouth filter, which is why people tell me that I am often too honest. Cause if I think something, 99.9% of the time, I am going to say it. So..if I think somebody is beautiful, I say it.

I will say that I hate all the various titles a female can have. Ms. Mrs. Miss..yet a guy gets Mr. and that is it. Settle on one, please. Much less confusing.

My coworkers find it amusing that I address them by SO (Security Officer) and their last name. Because it is polite, and that is how I was raised. I call all the guys who work here by Mr <last name>, but because of the Ms./Mrs./Miss etc I have to call all the females that are not security officers by the first name. Cause heaven forbid I get it wrong..then I get to hear a half an hour lecture. (Yes that happened one time, so I stopped calling them by Ms/Mrs/Miss <last name>).

I can be tactful, but if you ask me a question..just make sure you want an honest answer . Wow..I am really random sometimes, but this may be my most random post ever...

[FArchivist]

I just don't understand the thought process that a person should not hit on or come onto another person unless said person has a big sign on themselves saying I find you attractive therefore you can hit on me. *Not saying that this is what you meant in your post..just a thought process I have seen a lot lately*

The general reason is that catcalling is seen as contributing to prevalent rape culture.

For those working in a retail setting who both don't like pet names and don't like people using your given names: What are people supposed to call you to get your attention? "Hey, you?"

I've always used, "Excuse me, sir/ma'am?"
It's kosher according to Emily Post, anyway.

[Greenday]

I will say that I hate all the various titles a female can have. Ms. Mrs. Miss..yet a guy gets Mr. and that is it. Settle on one, please. Much less confusing.

Mrs. = Married
Miss = Unmarried
Ms. = You have no idea

[kibbles]

The general reason is that catcalling is seen as contributing to prevalent rape culture.
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I don't mean the offensive and lewd cat-calling that some men and women use to demean, I meant paying someone a compliment..JMO.

[Plaidman]

Mrs. = Married
Miss = Unmarried
Ms. = You have no idea

Indeed. They taught that in grade school. At least for me, like in kindgarten.


That being said, whenever I see the title of this thread or hear it, it always reminds me of this. (At the 1:04 mark. Couldn't find a quicker vid).

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=79HJj...eature=related

[Trjgul]

Performing thread necromancy to throw my two cents in.

I have large boobs. They are a source of much frustration to me. When I lived in Tucson, I made the mistake of wearing a tank top once.

Once. Guy drove by, honked, went around the fucking block, slowed down and asked if I needed a ride. While I was sitting on the bench at the bus stop. I told him to leave me alone.

For those of you who don't get it- it hurts. It reduces someone to less than a person. It'd be nice of more people would notice me for something other than my chest.

If someone is saying they like my hair or top or something, I'm not about to get my panties in a bunch over a genuine compliment. Making overly creepy remarks about my boots or boobs is NOT a compliment.

And DON'T get mad if I tell you to go away after a creepy remark or obvious proposition for sex. Fuck off.

[Eisa]

^Not quite the same thing, but I went to a Mardi Gras dance last week and I wore a dress that was...well...low-cut.

This girl actually told me "nice cleavage." You don't SAY stuff like that! Instead of making me feel good [this was the LGBT dance by the way...and everyone else told me things like "you look nice," "nice dress," "red looks good on you," and even "you look hot!"], it made me feel tawdry and slutty.

I agree. A specific compliment that's not on my boobs...I'm ok with. A generic "hello beautiful," from a stranger, I'm really not.

[Plaidman]

\. Making overly creepy remarks about my boots or boobs is NOT a compliment.

And DON'T get mad if I tell you to go away after a creepy remark or obvious proposition for sex. Fuck off.

While I don't have a foot fetish, I do like boots on a women and do compliment.... didn't know it was creepy.

[Ladeeda]

"Cute shoes" is a lot different than "you look really hot in those boots *leer*".

[Plaidman]

"Cute shoes" is a lot different than "you look really hot in those boots *leer*".

Done that, but without the leer, ususally the girl ether blushs or giggles and smiles.

[radiocerk]

Blushing and giggling probably means you're not coming off as creepy. If you get glares and dismissive looks, you need to rethink your comments.

I, too, have the big boobs "problem." Comments about them, unless I know you, and know you're not a creep, are incredibly unwelcome. So would be comments about my butt.