The Way I feel about a CS poster

[blas87]

I still can't believe that happened to you, GK.

I admit, your fanboys and girls are the reason I only read your post, then immediately click back, but it seems things have never been the same since the farkery incident. If people really liked you that much, they'd have used common sense and not jeopardized your security.

[Silverharp]

Thing that really broke my trust in CS though was when a select few dipshits went and outed me to one of the subjects of a post. Since then I've frankly felt quite half hearted about CS and aside from my weekly posts, rarely join in with any discussions or spend much time reading it anymore. Had to take down my Youtube channel and its pseudo podcasts.

Definitely not cool.
Anonymity is supposed to be one of the hallmarks of CS, gives us a safe place to vent about shit without worrying about that type of backlash

[Aethian]

Trust me, the fangirls use to disturb me as much as anyone else. -.-

I used to be a fan girl but I've ebbed away from doing so just because a few things I suggested one time got so twisted I didn't want to be a part of it anymore.

I miss some of the things I no longer see in your particular posts anymore but I understand why. It's part of the same reason I don't post anymore. Someone decided to be evil and called the postal inspectors and my boss on me. Hell they almost cost me my job and my freedom.


As for the thread I have three posters I refuse to read anything they write anymore. Two because of what they typically post and one because as a potentional client I got virtually smacked down because of a emergency that made me cancel out on a order before it was finalized.

[blas87]

I have a sneaking suspicion that a lot of our CS heros probably are harmless as kittens offline. Well, maybe even less harmless than kittens, because I know of some really naughty kittens.

I used to beat my chest and run my mouth (well, here I still do) and get adament that people should do this or that, and everything was always to an extreme. Then some stuff happened to me at work and in relationships where I got the same feedback I'd offered in the past to others, and realized just how jerky and counterproductive that is.

I mean, some of that "advice" people offer is flat out offensive to read. Sure, when we're venting, we may be hating our family or friends at that given time, but no one wants to come back home and read that someone online is calling their dad a dickless pussy or that their boyfriend is a spineless baby with no testicles, or that they need to sever all ties with their psychopath best friend or something.

[Ree]

Variety is what makes a great forum.
There are always going to be people that rub us the wrong way and whose posts cause our blood pressure to rise several points.

As a mod, I really don't have the option of putting them on ignore, but that is really what I do suggest if anyone finds themselves in a situation such as the OP has posted about.
(I realize he has said he does have this person on ignore, but ends up reading their posts if he comes online while not logged in. I still say, walk away from the thread if you see that name, or skim past their post.)

I really wish sometimes that I did have that option, but what I usually do is just skim their posts or threads, and hope, if there is a problem, that another mod will catch it, or it will get reported.

I have seen posts where a certain member came to vent, but then they have had some well-meaning suggestions or advice offered up by others on how to deal with the sucky situation, either in the instance they have vented about, or in future situations.
The member is so extremely ungracious in answering to those suggestions, that I feel like reaching through the screen and bitch slapping them because they annoy me so much with their attitude.

I realize unsolicited advice can be annoying, but it is only being put forth by people who do care about the OP.

There's no need to be rude.

There is another member who posts all the time and comes right out and asks for opinions, suggestions or advice, but then, when they are given, the member shoots them all down as not able to be done. (Actually, make that a couple of members who do that.)

There are some who post about their crappy lot in life and wail and moan, but they do nothing to help their situation.
I recall one member who was always crying poor and, I suspect, was actually trying to come right out and panhandle the CS members, but when good practical advice was given that might have involved some type of self-sacrifice, some leg work, and some actual physical contribution to change things, they pissed and moaned some more and shook their fists at the heavens and cursed the day they were born.

None of us are perfect.
I suspect we are all going to piss somebody else off at some point.
As long as we stay within that "respect each other" rule of CS, I say live and let live.

[Andara Bledin]

If people really liked you that much, they'd have used common sense and not jeopardized your security.

I rather imagine that the asshole that outed him to the group he was commenting on is likely also the asshole who outed another poster to her workplace, causing her posts to be hidden until such time as she could return.

So: word to the wise: There's an asshole at CS, so unless your work doesn't care or you don't care, be careful with your posting.

Actually, that's a good rule everywhere. If you don't want a comment to come home to roost, either make it good and generic or make damn sure (like Gk) that your persona is well-cloaked.

^-.-^

[Ginger Tea]

I take it the 'farkery incident" was to do with MC Shake N Bake as you refered to him as, I do recall one of the last threads of yours stating you were culling the weekly post and he and his posse of rappers were to be toned down/ not talked about.

I recall some youtube posts of them performing, I take it the spike in views got their attention somehow or comments posted linking back to you.

I miss some of the things I no longer see in your particular posts anymore but I understand why. It's part of the same reason I don't post anymore. Someone decided to be evil and called the postal inspectors and my boss on me. Hell they almost cost me my job and my freedom.

jeez without knowing the details unless you were bragging about breaking the law on an epic scale that really does cross the line.

I know some of the store name changes are a bit blatantly obvious (save for the swamp), others not as much as we don't have said stores over here so I never know if that is the real name or not, If I were to find myself employed by one of the big 3 supermarkets and had cause to vent at CS, I would not use this user name, even though it has been used at other sites (just not many and none porn related), it's just that here I don't mind sharing info like location, I haven't opted to write something witty or cryptic.

I, due to a running joke, have been photographed countless times and recognized at two festivals I go to yearly and one or two once in a blue moon and found one photo of me commented that I live above a butchers, I wasn't going to correct them it makes for better annecdotes of what I do with the bodies , here if we had a show us your face thread could post one of the many I've found, at CS I never would as I'm a bit memorable and if someone took offence to something said here or there, it wouldn't take much to 'drop me in it' about anything, hell an email to corporate describing me and that I work in one of the branches, even if you are in New York.

[Ree]

I rather imagine that the asshole that outed him to the group he was commenting on is likely also the asshole who outed another poster to her workplace, causing her posts to be hidden until such time as she could return.

So: word to the wise: There's an asshole at CS, so unless your work doesn't care or you don't care, be careful with your posting.

That is a huge assumption to make without proof.

IN GK's case, it was just a couple of thoughtless fanboys who didn't think how their comments could cause problems for GK.
(Not having benefit of knowing exactly what happened, as I haven't really been reading much of GK's post for a while now, and was not really fully paying attention as a mod at the time it went down, I don't think I ever really understood how their inane comments became such a "life and death" situation for GK and the GK persona. )

In Aethian's case, I suspect it was someone affiliated with her job, or in her personal life who decided to cause problems for her.

That said, yes, you are correct in your cautionary advice to watch what you post.
That's actually a no-brainer.

[Aethian]

In Aethian's case, I suspect it was someone affiliated with her job, or in her personal life who decided to cause problems for her.

My boss had printouts of a some threads I had started here. Only two other carriers know I post on CS ( that I know about). And of those that I have told of this place only one knew my nickname due to it also being in a email I use. So no I don't believe it to be someone I work with or in my personal life.

[Ree]

So no I don't believe it to be someone I work with or in my personal life.

But that doesn't make sense.

How could it not be someone who knew you? Someone just "driving by" on a forum wouldn't know where you worked????

Even if it was an established member who chose to make trouble for you, I still don't see how they knew which branch of the USPS you worked for in order to point your superiors in the direction of your posts.

I said "someone affiliated with" your job.
I didn't necessarily mean someone who worked with you. It could have been someone connected with the USPS who read some of your threads and got upset and did a bit of digging.

I would really hate to think that someone from CS could be so underhanded and dirty.
I promise you, if there is ever positive proof of who was responsible for something so despicable, a ban would come down on them so fast!!!

That is disgusting.

In any event, my comment was in answer to Andara's suggestion that your problem was caused by the same people who screwed up GK's life, and I really believe that is not the case.

[Aethian]

But that doesn't make sense.

How could it not be someone who knew you? Someone just "driving by" on a forum wouldn't know where you worked????

Even if it was an established member who chose to make trouble for you, I still don't see how they knew which branch of the USPS you worked for in order to point your superiors in the direction of your posts.

I said "someone affiliated with" your job.
I didn't necessarily mean someone who worked with you. It could have been someone connected with the USPS who read some of your threads and got upset and did a bit of digging.

I would really hate to think that someone from CS could be so underhanded and dirty.
I promise you, if there is ever positive proof of who was responsible for something so despicable, a ban would come down on them so fast!!!

That is disgusting.

You forget Ree, I've been a part of the Christmas card exchange. My address is on that list, I believe thats how they got my general area. And I had started to have trouble when a couple of the banned ones went and made their own forum. Again more issues between myself and them, (glutton for punishment I guess) I had more problems then at work with statements that I had stolen/destroyed mail. But since the inspectors found no proof of that, nothing went further. It's no joke when the inspectors enter your life, if I hadn't had my boyfriend and a few of the posters I know personally to lean on I don't think I could have made it through the investigation.

I have a feeling I know exactly who it was but since I have no definite proof and won't/can't be given it from the state postal inspectors its a moot feeling.

I guess your right it was someone in personal but it was someone who I thought was a friend I made through CS. And one who changed for the worst while here and then after. I wish them no ill will since I still have my job, my boyfriend, and my true friends from here, and only a small black mark in my files.

[Ree]

I find that disgusting!!!

It angers me that someone would use information from the Christmas card list in that way.

Please, if you EVER get proof, let us know because that is unforgivable to mess with someone's livelihood and reputation.

[Aethian]

I find that disgusting!!!

It angers me that someone would use information from the Christmas card list in that way.

Please, if you EVER get proof, let us know because that is unforgivable to mess with someone's livelihood and reputation.

Yup, I will. I tried to get info to Rap's when this was happening but was unfortuntly unable too. Email troubles and all.

[the_std]

There is another member who posts all the time and comes right out and asks for opinions, suggestions or advice, but then, when they are given, the member shoots them all down as not able to be done. (Actually, make that a couple of members who do that.)
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I recall one member who was always crying poor and, I suspect, was actually trying to come right out and panhandle the CS members, but when good practical advice was given that might have involved some type of self-sacrifice, some leg work, and some actual physical contribution to change things, they pissed and moaned some more and shook their fists at the heavens and cursed the day they were born.

I think these are two of my least favourite behaviours that I've seen on CS lately. They're both just so... Attention-whore-y. But the second one, the one having serious financial troubles, had posters rallied all around them, there was this big effort to help this person out, and then... Nothing. "Oh, it didn't work out, I never made the plans... BUT MY LIFE SUCKS SO MUCH! None of it is my fault!" I cannot imagine creating such a stir, asking so many people for help and support, and then just letting the bottom drop out of it and having all that time and energy wasted. It really makes me think twice about offering any kind of help to the general population of CS, unless there is someone I know and trust who really is in need of aid.

People are people, and CS is no exception to that rule, I know that. But still, it's disappointing when these behaviours poke their heads out.

[Andara Bledin]

That is a huge assumption to make without proof.

Considering that at least a few people have been maliciously outed on CS, I'm not that uncomfortable making that assumption. I reserve the right to be wrong, but there's at least one shitstirrer over there who likes to screw with other people's lives.

^-.-^