Can I please just have an emotion?

[Kheldarson]

Even though women are built to bear children, it's still rough on our bodies. Pregnancy leaves you tired, robs you of nutrients and energy, causes all sorts of body aches and stress. It's natural to feel run-down and unenthusiastic. And it's highly uncharitable of others to try to make you feel worse about feeling bad.

It's more the fact that I'm not doing the whole bonding thing. I'm just like...I can't affect this in any way, shape, or form. What is there to bond to? Add on top of that what you mentioned, and I'm just ready to be done with this. >.<

[Nekojin]

Another thing I hate is when people tell you that how you feel doesn't matter. Example, I have a fear of snakes. It's not be the most rational fear, but it IS a fear that affects me and is one of the reasons I'm afraid to go camping. You could make all the rational arguments for why my phobia is irrational or why I have nothing to fear, but in the end of the day, I'm petrified of snakes. If I were to go camping, it would affect my enjoyment. So no, what I feel does indeed matter.

Even if it could be shown that there are no snakes in the area, because the bears ate them all?

[Rageaholic]

Another thing I hate is when people tell you that how you feel doesn't matter. Example, I have a fear of snakes. It's not be the most rational fear, but it IS a fear that affects me and is one of the reasons I'm afraid to go camping. You could make all the rational arguments for why my phobia is irrational or why I have nothing to fear, but in the end of the day, I'm petrified of snakes. If I were to go camping, it would affect my enjoyment. So no, what I feel does indeed matter.

[SkullKing]

I get sick of hearing, "Smile," in a teasing tone.

I found out that if you look them fixedly in the eye without blinking and than proceed to show your teeth in the most manacing way you can while keeping the mouth closed while making sure your expression is that of barely contained anger, they won´t ask you to smile again.

[Mongo Skruddgemire]

I quite agree with Mongo's Mr. Rogers vs Barney explanation.

Thank you.

Even though women are built to bear children, it's still rough on our bodies. Pregnancy leaves you tired, robs you of nutrients and energy, causes all sorts of body aches and stress. It's natural to feel run-down and unenthusiastic. And it's highly uncharitable of others to try to make you feel worse about feeling bad.

I work at a hospital in the IT department. I can't tell you how many times I've gone to the "Women's Health and Birthing Center" and heard some mother-to-be screaming "Get this parasite out of me NOW GODDAMNIT!" (or some variant thereof).

[XCashier]

I quite agree with Mongo's Mr. Rogers vs Barney explanation. It sure does seem that lately, a lot of people consider it a sin or a crime to feel a less-than-pleasant emotion, and frankly, I think that's very unkind. Sometimes the world just sucks, and it's better to be honest about it than plaster a happy face on and pretend everything is hunky-dory.

I get this all the freakin' time at work, from sucktomers. No one has the right to tell me how to feel.

Agreed. I hate it when customers expect you to be a perky happy sunflower, and mock and belittle you when you have the audacity to be somewhat less than cheerful! Um, guess what, SC? This may come as a complete shock for you, but I AM human! That's why I act human, rather than being a chipper little robot Just To Make You Happy.

Apparently, it's shocking and alarming that I, a pregnant woman, am not excited over my pregnancy. That I have a dislike of being pregnant even!

Even though women are built to bear children, it's still rough on our bodies. Pregnancy leaves you tired, robs you of nutrients and energy, causes all sorts of body aches and stress. It's natural to feel run-down and unenthusiastic. And it's highly uncharitable of others to try to make you feel worse about feeling bad.

[aurelemsrealm]

Ree, I am the same with the serious expression when I'm concentrating. Funny thing is all the men in my dad's family have stern expressions in pictures I've always noticed it when I look in the mirror. I've always noticed it in pictures of my dad. My grandfather passed away before I was born, but I've always noticed it in his photos. I've always noticed it in pictures of my uncles and my grandfather's brothers. It's just a family trait in my dad's family. The men have stern expressions even when they are smiling. I come by it honestly.

Now that I think about it, quite a few of the women in my dad's family also look pretty serious in pictures. My sister does in some of her pictures. I'm also noticing that my daughter often looks serious in her pictures, and my wife says our daughter acts just like me.

[Rageaholic]

I get sick of hearing, "Smile," in a teasing tone.

I despise the teasing tone in general. I get sick of people thinking they can get away with saying insulting things just because they say it in a teasing tone. If I get rightfully POed, I have no sense of humor.

[Ree]

I get told all the time by a few of coworkers to smile.

I tend to get a really serious look on my face when I am deep in thought.

Some days, I am in so much damn pain and it just shows on my face.

I get sick of hearing, "Smile," in a teasing tone.

Then, if I am in a really good mood and feeling silly and joking, I get, "What are you smoking today?"

Ummm...if I look like I'm bitchy you have a problem, and if I come across as too happy, you have a problem.

Another one I keep hearing from friends and family when I am missing my late husband, and get suddenly overcome by grief just out of the blue, "He wouldn't want you to be so sad."

Let me have my damned feelings and emotions and piss off!

[aurelemsrealm]

I had a regular sucktomer once tell me I should smile. I have never seen her smile or act friendly. I told her I will try it when she does. She gave me a death glare, and then I did smile.

[Kheldarson]

I'm becoming very familiar with this.

Apparently, it's shocking and alarming that I, a pregnant woman, am not excited over my pregnancy. That I have a dislike of being pregnant even!

I'm not against having a kid, per se (would've liked a bit better timing...but hey...), I'm more very, very, very not happy with being pregnant.

But that's not allowed apparently. Or is alarmingly worrisome.

[Food Lady]

I get this all the freakin' time at work, from sucktomers. No one has the right to tell me how to feel. I didn't bend to their will last year, and then apparently I got a lot of complaints about me. Funny that I never heard a word about them until review time. I can tell you I should have an oscar for the acting I've done since then.

[BrenDAnn]

Oh good. I'm not the only one who has to force myself not to bitchslap the everliving SHIT out of people who do that kind of thing. Don't tell me to smile. Seriously. Just don't. Don't make a smart remark about me being in a mood, either, fuck you very much. Oh, and "you're no fun!" WILL get met with a death glare. Even my manager death glared at the last person that said that to her!

[siead_lietrathua]

amen to the OP, i get that horseshit constantly at work when i'm not being a bundle of sunshine.
makes me all kinds of stabbity to be told how to feel at my age. i'm not some toddler.

[HYHYBT]

Off topic, but this is a great coincidence. I haven't thought about Mr. Rogers in quite a while until a couple days ago, when there was a picture on Facebook of the Supreme Court building with the columns in rainbow colors. This sent me looking for a picture of the Museum-Go-Round... which, along with the castle, factory, tree, etc., turns out still to exist. Kinda shabby looking, but for something intended neither to be seen close-up in high resolution nor to last nearly as long as it has, that's expected.

http://neighborhoodarchive.blogspot....-go-round.html