Valentine's day ass hattery

[jackfaire]

However, I have never brought this up in conversation because I figured I would just get eyerolls and be told that I "just didn't get it."

Depends on the household. Some couples have a "house account" that each puts money in for paying the household bills but their own separate account for their own money that they earned.

Personally I think it's a good idea.

[Lace Neil Singer]

I plan on keeping a separate account when I get married; we'll of course have a joint account for paying the bills but I'm not giving up my "me" account, dammit.

[Andara Bledin]

I forbid my husband from buying me roses on Valentine's Day.

I never had to forbid the boyfriend from silly extravagances. We are both of the same mind on such matters already.

As for things not being surprises, we still manage to surprise one another, though it can be difficult when we both know each other's accounts online.

^-.-^

[guywithashovel]

I've often had that thought about married and cohabitating couples.

If they get each other gifts, then technically, they're both paying for each other's gifts. If hubby buys the wife flowers, she technically helped pay for them.

However, I have never brought this up in conversation because I figured I would just get eyerolls and be told that I "just didn't get it."

[Boozy]

It really does.

We mostly buy gifts for "us" instead of each other now. And nothing's ever a surprise.

[AdminAssistant]

Shared income kinda takes all the fun out of gift giving, doesn't it?

[Boozy]

I forbid my husband from buying me roses on Valentine's Day. They're like, 50 bucks a dozen! You can get them for $10 a dozen the very next day, on clearance.

We had been married a few years when I realized, he's spending my money too. It all comes out of the same account. Would I spend $50 on a dozen roses for myself? No I would not. So no more flowers for me on Valentine's.

[blas87]

I got a dozen roses and chocolates, so I'm pretty happy

But, I wasn't expecting nor demanding anything. It was his idea.

[Mytical]

I don't know if I'd go that far Blas..but I will say that if you have each other..does it really matter where you are .. a 'hole in a wall' Mexican restaurant can be just as good as a 5 star...as for the flowers..if it is from the heart great..makes it special..but not sure about a gas station ...lol..*shrugs*

[blas87]

Someone called the radio Wednesday whining that their boyfriend "only took me to a hole in the wall Mexican restaurant and got me gas station flowers!" for Valentine's Day.

Everyone pretty much phoned back or Facebook'ed that she's a high maintenance bitch (well, witch or wench since it's radio) and needs to shut up.

[Lace Neil Singer]

Oh, I don't resent Mother's Day; I always get my mum a card and some spring flowers. ^^ I just thought it was a good comparison, cuz I'm childfree from choice and will never get presents on that day... but I don't whine or complain about it. Just as some people won't get Valentine gifts. No point in being bitter or whiny; it takes up far too much energy. XD

[Racket_Man]

Argh! You beat me to it! When I read the first post, my mind went straight to that one. The Oatmeal I think described it perfectly.

For V-day, Hubby and I just went to the movies to see "The Woman in Black". Then we ordered pizza 'cause neither of us felt like cooking.

you would be very surprised at the number of people who actually order delivery pizza on V-Day. VERY nice shift indeed and I thank all of my generous customers from that shift.

before I started delivering pizza I would have NEVER thought this course of "action" was so popular

least it wasnt the $10,010 proposal special from pizza hut

I saw that and all I could think about was: "YEAH the jet, limo, hotel, ruby ring, etc was nice BUT a $10 pizza special????? how freakin romantic was that????" and this is the company that is making lots of money but is trying to slice its labor budget by forcing pay reductions on its employees and making them pay for actually working for the company.

[Ginger Tea]

least it wasnt the $10,010 proposal special from pizza hut

[bhskittykatt]

I like this

Argh! You beat me to it! When I read the first post, my mind went straight to that one. The Oatmeal I think described it perfectly.

For V-day, Hubby and I just went to the movies to see "The Woman in Black". Then we ordered pizza 'cause neither of us felt like cooking.

[Ginger Tea]

I could say the same about Mother's Day. Not being a parent, I don't get any presents on that day. However, I'm not about to go bitching at anyone who does get flowers and chocolates on Mother's Day.

I'm 50/50 in agreeing with you for mothers and fathers day (well the split might be different I just don't care enough to work it out).

Childless as (I hope) I am, I have no one to call me daddy or any such parental unit name, so the day passes me by.
When my parents were alive I would get a card and perhaps a western on VHS then DVD for my dad, chocolates and flowers for mum (and something a bit long lasting too, but flowers and chocs cost more than a film, but a film lasts way longer.)

Some times we need a gentle prod to remind us to not take our parents for granted, not in the 'you'll never know when they will be gone for good' way, but to remember that for the first decade and a bit, they were there for you 24/7 and if you got too wrapped up in work or your own family life, having some 3rd party remind you to call your mum more often helps.
It's a cleche when something happens to someones mum in a TV show in a TV show, that causes a character to then call their own mum, maybe this causes real people to do the same thing after the show finishes.

Now having said that, having a child is a prerequisit to being called mother or father, having no children you are just you, childless couples should not get all hot and bothered about the lack of gifts bestowed upon them by their children as they do not have them to do the bestowing.

Some couples might give their OH something on that day, but that is their perogative, But you are not a mother, you are not celebrated on mothers day.

But...

Those who cannot have children, or had but lost children, this I can see as upsetting and a reminder of your situation, far more than 'single awareness day' as it has been called over the years.

The years between my Fathers death and my Mothers, Fathers day was noted as a day to remember he wasn't there more than any other day of the year save his birthday, but after my Mother passed, both lost meaning and I can not cite the month either fall on in the UK (different to the states as they are), one more day to be reminded of the loss of both of my parents, when I was reminded each and every day I woke up for quite some time.

So yeah 50/50 on mothers/fathers day as a childless adult, but would rather sit out the 14th if in a relationship and do that kind of stuff when ever I felt like it.