Father Teaches Daughter Lesson About Facebook

[KnitShoni]

He *did* take away her laptop. People are just upset about what he did with it afterwards.

He *did* talk to her about it. The last time it happened.

There were different ways to handle it. Not necessarily better. Some of those supposedly better ways were tried. They didn't work.

[Ree]

Last time it happened, he did ground her. From his comments, she was ungrounded for a grand total of three months before doing exactly what he told her not to and attempting to hide that she did it.

Then he should have taken away the laptop, or removed her internet access. The punishment should have fit the crime.

He was repairing her laptop when he found the FB entry.
He could have added a password to her laptop so that he couldn't get on it.

He could have, oh, I don't know TALKED to her about it.

From what I'm reading on his own FB page, it sounds a bit like Daddy dictates and the children aren't supposed to question it.

There were better ways of handling it.

[Boozy]

LOL This is beyond ridiculous to ask for.

It was also a ridiculous argument to make -- it was a sweeping statement that had no basis in this debate. As are most strawman arguments. That's why Gravekeeper asked for a citation.

It has happened on this board. That's proof enough.

If it's happened here, it's not exactly a ridiculous thing to ask for a citation. Just find the post and link to it.

[Greenday]

Citation needed.

LOL This is beyond ridiculous to ask for. I feel like I could state the sky is blue on this board and someone at some point would ask me for a citation. Though I'm sure someone will ask me for a citation on this statement.

It has happened on this board. That's proof enough.

[Andara Bledin]

He literally punished her for saying something bad about him in private.

No, he "literally" didn't.

^-.-^

[Hyena Dandy]

Last time it happened, he did ground her. From his comments, she was ungrounded for a grand total of three months before doing exactly what he told her not to and attempting to hide that she did it.

Honestly, I'd probably have done the same thing...

[Gravekeeper]

I said it's used by a lot of people to oppose any form of discipline.

Citation needed.

Because he didn't punish her for her opinion.

He literally punished her for saying something bad about him in private. Its literally no better than punishing her because he ease dropped on her complaining to her friends. You can go on all you want about whether she has a point or whether she's spoiled, but regardless of which it is she has a right to voice her opinion. Just because she's 15 doesn't mean she doesn't get to vent when she's stressed and just because he's her father doesn't mean he gets total control over what she can and cannot say to her friends just because he doesn't like it.

It disturbs me that this guy is heralded as some sort of parental hero for this, when if this was ANY other two people we'd be calling him a psycho. Can you picture the shit storm if this scenario involved him and his wife?

There was nothing private about it. Facebook is public.

Yeah, thats why it has an entire user control panel dedicated to privacy.

This entire angle of argument is completely irrelevant here because she intended for the post to be private from her parents. Just because she failed at that does not negate her intention at keeping it private.

[jackfaire]

Facebook is always public. Saying it can be private is like saying standing behind a tree in a city makes you hidden: not really.

Unless it's a tree bigger than you and the person looking for you is on the other side of the tree and then it doesn't matter if your in a city if the person doesn't know your hiding behind a tree.

[MadMike]

Last time it happened, he did ground her. From his comments, she was ungrounded for a grand total of three months before doing exactly what he told her not to and attempting to hide that she did it.

Then he should have grounded her again for a longer period, not put on a vulgar display of power like he did. He's supposed to be the adult in this.

[Greenday]

If it shouldn't be for his eyes, she shouldn't post it in public where he can see if he really wants to.

[DrFaroohk]

Doesn't matter how well guarded it was. You don't say it's ok to break into someone's house because they left the door unlocked. What if it was her journal left carelessly on he desk, is that ok?

Reminds me of when the mrs. was reading my fratching posts. Sure, anyone can come here to fratching, I don't own fratching, but the fact is it was snooping. So was this dad. We can sugarcoat it anyway we want, and use fancy words like public and facebook, but it was not intended for his eyes, nor did he need to see it.

[Greenday]

Facebook can be public.

If you pay attention, it can also be private (in as much as anything on the Internet is).

^-.-^

Facebook is always public. Saying it can be private is like saying standing behind a tree in a city makes you hidden: not really.

[Andara Bledin]

I'm kind of torn on whether she should have been punished for simply venting, but if it had to be done, it would have made more sense to just ground her from using the laptop.

Last time it happened, he did ground her. From his comments, she was ungrounded for a grand total of three months before doing exactly what he told her not to and attempting to hide that she did it.

There was nothing private about it. Facebook is public.

Facebook can be public.

If you pay attention, it can also be private (in as much as anything on the Internet is).

^-.-^

[Greenday]

Dad here punished his daughter in an unreasonable fashion for holding a private opinion.

There was nothing private about it. Facebook is public.

[MadMike]

Outside of his gun usage and the fact that he recorded it, what part of the punishment was unreasonable for being disrespectful?

I can't speak for everyone else, but for me, it was pretty much just that. Shooting the laptop was overkill, and posting it for all to see was childish. I'm kind of torn on whether she should have been punished for simply venting, but if it had to be done, it would have made more sense to just ground her from using the laptop.